Whether you’re trying to lose weight, build muscle or win more games, these are the psychological rules that will build a winning mindset.
Expert – Royston Guest is an authority on growing businesses and unlocking people potential. He is also the author of #1 best seller, Built To Grow and new book, RISE: Start Living The Life You Were Meant To Lead.
The key to success, and failure is simply this…you become what you think about. You have a very distinct advantage over every other living creature on the planet because you have 100% control over how you choose to think.
This is not just control over how you think, but how you choose to think. You can deliberately change it at any point during any given day. You are no doubt a bright person so probably learned long ago to avoid situations you fear.
This could have been thanks to situations which you’ve personally experienced, or situations you learned through other’s experiences.
Imagine you’ve had a long relationship. You split up – now your mind creates an association of fear and pain with relationships. There’s now a little voice inside your head, which says to you: don’t go there again, don’t expose yourself, don’t step outside your comfort zone, and don’t expose yourself to that pain.
In many situations, this makes eminent sense. Your mind is programmed to protect you and in doing so, avoid situations where you might get hurt (physically or emotionally) or where you might lose, fail or be rejected. You have a built-in early warning system that alerts your mind to these kinds of situations so that you can avoid them. But here’s the critical part.
Unfortunately, this early warning system often leaks over into other areas of your life where you aren’t at true risk.
Your goal is to grow and improve in all things. This means you should program your mindset to engage with life, step outside your comfort zone, take calculated risks, learn to become comfortably uncomfortable, learn to thrive on the adventure of life and see the unknown as your friend not your foe.
You become what you think about – it’s your choice. Here are six attitude enablers that make up your attitude compass, and together they will give power to your winning mentality.
LISTEN TO YOUR INNER VOICE
You become what you think about. Some of the most important conversations you have are the ones inside your head with yourself. I
t’s critical to pay attention and truly listen to your inner voice and the quality of the internal conversations taking place.
The mind is such a powerful force and, no matter what programs you’ve previously run or what thoughts you’ve given greatest attention to in the past, the great news is that you can override even years of poor programming, with the right focus.
GET SOME PERSPECTIVE
Nothing is as bad as you make it out to be. Use this framing technique or reality checker, aka ‘get a grip.’ This technique will help you align your thinking with ‘nothing is as bad as you’re making it out to be.’
To develop a great winning mentality every day, you’ve got to overcome the natural human tendency to blow small things out of proportion.
Work on having a rational amount of perspective about things.
THE WORDS YOU USE HAVE POWER
Dynamic language is everything. The things you say and words you use have equal power to shape your thoughts.
Be aware of your choice of words, what they mean and the impact they can have on yourself and others.
YOUR INNER CIRCLE IS CRITICAL
Who you spend time with is who you become. You can’t choose your family, but you can choose your friends. Choose wisely.
Pick people who want to celebrate your success and whose friendship and support make you want to celebrate theirs as you build your buildings higher and higher.
Beware of those who would rather knock the foundations out from under your feet even as they look you in the eye and smile.
CHOOSE YOUR WORDS CAREFULLY
Override derailing thoughts with incantations. An incantation or enchantment is a set of words, spoken or unspoken, which are considered by their user to evoke meaning and purpose.
Find those words, which mean something to you. The things you say and words you use have equal power to shape your thoughts.
Be aware of your choice of words, what they mean and the impact they can have on yourself and others. You get action when you make a simple change from ‘I should’ to ‘I must.’
Focus on how you choose to dedicate yourself to the way you think, how you choose to dedicate yourself to being positive, how you choose to dedicate yourself to reacting in a positive way.
If your waking hours are consumed with positive, enabling thoughts, ideas and strategies, what’s going to happen?
You will become those positive, enabling thoughts. A winning mentality is not only critical to your success, it’s entirely yours to choose.
If you’re not yet practicing a winning mentality every day by conscious, deliberate choice, start now. It’s not an overstatement to suggest that it can literally change everything for the better.
FAILURES ARE JUST STEPPING – STONES TO ULTIMATE SUCCESS
There is no such thing as a failure. A key part of programming your winning mentality is to reframe each failure as just another step on your glorious path.
You change your mindset, you change the game. Success is simply the ability to go from one failure to the next, learning and growing as you go and never losing enthusiasm as you keep the end goal in the front of your mind.